In an age where many of us feel lonelier and more disconnected than ever—despite being chronically online—it's never been more important to invest extra energy into our friendships. Platonic relationships are sometimes overlooked in our quest for romantic ones, but friendship is just as important to our psychological well-being.
Friendships can enrich your life in countless ways. Good friends teach you about yourself and challenge you to be better. They encourage you to keep going when times get tough and celebrate your successes with you. They help you build community.
At a Glance
Friends do a lot more than give you a shoulder to cry on; they also positively impact your health. Some research even says friendships are as important to your well-being as eating right and exercising. Friendships help you stay healthier (physically and mentally). They encourage you to stick to healthy behaviors (and avoid unhealthy ones). They also provide emotional support in tough times and create a buffer against stress. The sense of community they provide also helps you to feel more connected to your greater community. So cultivate those close friendships! It turns out that your besties help you stay healthier, happier, and less stressed.
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Friends Are Good for Your Physical Health
It turns out that healthy relationships actually contribute to good physical health. Having a close circle of friends can decrease your risk of health problems like diabetes, heart attack, and stroke.
Having strong social ties can also decrease feelings of loneliness, which evidence shows can take a toll on your longevity. One study found that the risk of mortality increased by a whopping 91% among socially isolated people. A 2023 systematic review and meta-analysis found that social isolation increased the risk of mortality from all causes.
Social isolation and loneliness are linked to a variety of health issues such as high blood pressure, substance abuse, heart disease, and even cancer.
Friends Encourage Healthy Behaviors
One possible explanation for those health benefits is that friendships can help you make lifestyle changes that can have a direct impact on your well-being. For example, your friends can help you set and maintain goals to eat better and exercise more. They can also watch out for you and give a heads-up when any unhealthy behaviors (like drinking too much) get out of hand.
Additionally, people are more motivated and likely to stick to a weight loss or exercise program when they do it with a buddy. It's much easier to get out and stay active when you have a friend by your side.
That friend may also suggest activities that you would not have considered on your own—thus, pushing you outside your comfort zone to challenge your anxiety.
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Friends Provide Emotional Support
If you find yourself going through a hard time, having a friend to help you through can make the transition easier. Emotional support involves offering comfort and empathy.
For example, friends can listen without judging, validate your feelings, and offer words of comfort. They can also just be physically present with you when you are going through something tough, which can be a *huge* comfort. By checking in and standing by you, they help you feel less alone.
Research also shows that happiness is contagious among friends. One study of high school students found that those who were depressed were twice as likely to recover if they had happy friends. Likewise, kids were half as likely to develop depression if their friends had a "healthy mood."
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Friends Help Build Your Confidence
Everyone has self-doubts and insecurities every now and then. But having friends who support you plays a big role in building your self-esteem. When people around you provide validation, it impacts your ability to love and appreciate yourself.
Supportive friends can help you feel more confident by offering praise and reassurance when you're feeling unsure. They'll shine a light on just how amazing you are and how much you have to offer others.
Friends Help You Beat Stress
Everyone goes through stressful events. If you know you have people you can count on, you may be less likely even to perceive a tough time as stressful.
Spending time with friends can also help reduce stress. According to Harvard Medical School, "social connections help relieve levels of stress, which can harm the heart's arteries, gut function, insulin regulation, and the immune system."
Friends can also help you cope with stressful situations.
Research suggests that when children hang out with their friends during a stressful situation, they produce less cortisol, a hormone released when the body is under stress. Kids who talk to a good friend after a negative experience also return to a relaxed state more quickly than those who do not.
Other research has shown that teens who have higher levels of perceived social support have lower cortisol responses to stress. They also have lower neural activity in the areas of the brain that are often associated with the social distress people experience when they are socially excluded.
As the song goes: "We all need somebody to lean on."
A lack of friends can leave you feeling lonely and without support, which makes you vulnerable to other problems such as depression and substance abuse.
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Friends Help You Cultivate Community
While we might all be pretty good at building online communities, our in person ones are seriously lacking. When we invest the energy in our friendships, and then encourage our friends to be friends with each other it fosters a sense of community.
A healthy community can help us feel more at home in our towns and cities When we're out and about and we see people we know—at the grocery store, at a local cafe, etc—it lets us know that we are part of something bigger and that we belong.
Research has found that a sense of community is associated with decreased symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression.
Friends Push You To Be Your Best
Ever heard some version of the phrase, "you are the average of the people you spend your time with"? The people we're friends with have the power to influence our own values and character.
When you prioritize friendships with people who are generous with their time, help others, or are ambitious or family-oriented, you are more likely to develop those values yourself.
Great friends have the power to mold you into the best version of yourself. They see you and love you for who you truly are. They encourage you and push you to do better and be the person you want to be—your "ideal self."
Takeaways
The social support that friendships provide is vital to mental health and well-being. Unfortunately, reports suggest that loneliness is at an all-time high. According to one survey, 27% of millennials report having no close friends.
The good news is that quality is more important than quality. If you want to build a stronger support network or strengthen your current friendships, reach out to the people in your life. Friendship is a two-way street, so start by making the connection so you can keep fostering and strengthening your close friendships.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What makes someone a friend?
There are many different components of friendship. If someone is loyal to you, honest with you, shares many of your interests, and is there for you when you need them, you would likely consider them a friend.
What is the purpose of having friends?
Many of the benefits of friends could be considered evolutionary—having a group of friends can create feelings of safety and social inclusion. Caring for others, and having others that care for you in turn, can help foster a collective purpose and feelings of self-worth.
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